Why friends are not the answer

by Lorraine McReight

If you have ever visited a hypnotherapist you probably knew what you wanted to achieve. But how did you anticipate achieving this? Did you expect your mind to be re-programmed by a magician-like therapist? If so, this expectation may have been formed as a result of seeing a stage or TV hypnotist. The chances are that it became clear during the course of your therapy that the practitioner you consulted was a facilitator rather than a magician. A hypnotherapist will do their best to help their client to change, but as a client you need to be involved and engaged in the process.

Many clients visit a hypnotherapist for help to ‘fix’ something that they’ve been unable to deal with themselves. If they are experiencing physical symptoms, such as headaches, anxiety or IBS, they may consult their GP for a diagnosis. Frequently clients will then look online, especially if their symptoms are not due to a medical condition. Many will choose to explore drug-free therapies such as hypnotherapy.

Where the problem is an emotional one, seeing to a non-judgemental therapist has distinct advantages over talking it over with friends. Of course this has its place, but everyone who is close to the person will have a ‘position’ on what their friend or loved one shares with them and they might feel compelled to give advice. The job of a talking therapist is not to give advice, but to help their client find their own solution.

When clients work with a professional hypnotherapist, they can expect them to be impartial and un-shockable. They can feel safe to have conversations that they might find embarrassing or difficult. Another advantage is that they won’t feel any sense of responsibility towards the person with whom they have discussed their issues. A professional will be able to listen with empathy and to take the problem and their client’s feeling seriously.

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